Best friend troubles

Hello all,

Two months ago, my husband sat me down and told me that my best friend of 25 years propositioned him 1 year ago. My husband didn’t tell me initially because he worried it would ruin our friendship, and he knows how much the friendship means to me. However, him keeping this from me was eating him alive so he decided to tell me, especially as each time we would hang out with my best friend, he would feel an intense tension/an aggressiveness growing. For example, the last time we were all together, we had gone on a weekend getaway trip and my husband felt like he was being watched every time he would kiss or show me affection.

My husband decided to end his friendship with my best friend. I take a while to come in touch with my feelings so my initial reaction was to be upset at the disruption in the friendship – we 3 have been really close for a long time and would hang out weekly. My best friend & I briefly spoke after my husband’s ending with him and he apologized to me saying he has been lonely and has grown so close with my husband that he was confused. Since that call, we have not spoken.

I am hurt that he hasn’t reached out to me, since he is the one who has done me wrong. I feel lost, as he was the one person who understood me most in the world. I love my husband so much, but best friends are different. I am heartbroken he would do such a thing – he was at my wedding! I was thinking of writing him a letter with how I’m feeling. Would you continue being friends with such a person? I don’t know how to feel or what to do

Best friend troubles