I really need some help. I’m a woman who’s never had male validation and right now I’m really craving it.
For most of my life I listened to others that when I got older,men would be interested and to focus on my life. I focused on school, hobbies and my friendships and spent time with myself, which I really love to do. I socialised but the guys around me mostly ended up liking my friends and some would mention it to me. Im working on myself, I don’t have high self esteem but I’m improving, I try to take pictures of myself when I feel I look decent and give myself a compliment for self validation.
A lot of the time I’m good, I get on with my life but some days the sadness is overwhelming that ive never had a man give me compliments or interested in me. Never been with a man romantically or physically either. I’ve received compliments about my skills/achievements from men a few times but never physically or romantically and it’s really getting to me. It’s nice to receive compliments about who I am but it would be nice to have them about my looks too, especially those days I’ve made an effort . My friends complement me sometimes but I still desire it from a man and I really wish I didn’t. I leave the house feeling good and friends hype me up which feels nice but then the men around never are interested or talk/compliment my friends. I feel quite pathetic typing this and wanting this.
I just hate that I’m okay most of the time but then some days like today it’s overwhelming. At one point I felt the desire so much I considered finding a random man to send nudes to a man but body insecurities and talking myself out of it stopped me. Also knowing pictures get leaked. Besides I know what I actually want is genuine romantic affection. Are there any women who’ve gone there while life without male validation like me and been able to stop feeling sad about it completely.